National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Month
In 1988, President Reagan proclaimed October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss month saying,
When a child loses his parent he is called an orphan. When a spouse loses his partner he is called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them.”
President Reagan assigned this month as a way to recognize those who’ve experienced the profound loss of a child.
On October 15, a worldwide candle lighting called Wave the Light recognizes all children who have died and acknowledges the grief of parents who have experienced the loss of their son or daughter. By lighting a candle at 7 pm on October 15, we grieve our babies, recognize the brevity of their lives and that we have not forgotten them.
This light reminds us to press on toward a hope that someday we will see them again. We light these candles as a community—recognizing our pain, but not grieving this loss alone.
Losing a child should not be swept under the rug because it’s difficult to talk about. By doing that, we leave those affected by it ignored and alone. Let’s gather with our sisters and brothers and stand by those who are grieving, helping each other through it the best ways we know how. A lit candle is a start.
This is how we “weep with those who weep” and become a community dedicated to helping those who have lost children.