This was a post I wrote in 2009 about our family’s adoption story.
The first time I really considered adoption was before I even considered having my own children. At the time I was on the “5 year plan,” which means we “planned” to wait for 5 years and then try to have children. (Ironically, the 5 year plan turned into the 8 year plan. That is the way God works sometimes. He takes your best laid plans and gives you something better.)
We had been married for a little over two years when we went on a short term missions trip to Haiti. We worked with orphans and children and my heart broke for so many children who were underfed and impoverished. The orphans slept on a cement floor with sheets for walls. They had no toys. The rocks were there playthings and they often went without meals. When I saw those children, I knew I wanted to adopt a child. I couldn’t stand the fact that any child would grow up without a family and a home. That was 1999.
Ten years later: 2009. We had one adopted child and another on the way. We aren’t adopting internationally (it is too difficult because my husband is a cancer survivor) but we are adopting children whose biological mom or dad can’t parent for whatever reason: financial, emotional, lack of stability or support or a dozen other reasons.
The Bible has a lot to say about the concept of adoption.
First there is the whole concept that we are adopted into God’s family. ”In love he predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will”– Ephesians 1:5. I am not a Jew and not part of God’s chosen people, but I have been adopted into the family of God and call him Father because of it. Because of my own personal family connection to adoption, it makes the spiritual illustration so much more powerful.
Secondly, God calls us to care for the orphans and the emphasis to do this is throughout the Bible, from Exodus to James.
- Deuteronomy 10:18 says that God…”defends the cause of the fatherless and the widow…”
- Psalm 82:3 “Defend the cause of the weak and fatherless….”
- One of my favorite that speaks to God’s goodness: “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows…God sets the lonely in families…” Psalm 68:5&6a
When I left the country of Haiti so many years ago, I didn’t know what God had planned; the hardship and pain we had to endure to get to this point. Praise God that he sets the lonely in families and remembers the orphans. Praise God he remembers me.